Why I built Lighter

I built this practice because I could not find what I was looking for.

I grew up in the Netherlands as part of one of the very few Chinese-Dutch families in my village. Later I moved to Hong Kong and found I did not fully belong there either.

When I looked for a coach myself, I found it difficult to find someone who had grown up between cultures. Shared experience can make the conversation feel easier: less explaining and more recognition.

Coaching helped me tell the difference between what I wanted and what I thought I was supposed to want.

That experience now shapes how I work with people who are trying to work out what they want when different expectations are involved.